Member-only story
You Are Enough
Can you stop trying to live up to someone else’s rules?
There are some of us who are always living in panic — jumping from one crisis to another; one drama to another. You’d think our lives may be a TV show and that we are here to play some character on the stage of life. Oh, if only we had the spotlight and the good life, wouldn’t everything be perfect then?
The Japanese have a special relationship with beauty. For them, things are neither complete nor perfect. The culture, in general, pursues perfection and is very precise in business and social etiquette but in art, they admire a certain lack of perfection. Known as wabi-sabi (侘 寂), an imperfection is seen as an aesthetic described as one of beauty that is imperfect, impermanent, and incomplete. The reasoning is that nothing lasts. Nothing is finished. Nothing is perfect.
Have we simply been hypnotized to believe that the way to get love and meaning in our life is through our success, physical beauty and how we appear? As a child, did we learn that chasing perfection was the goal? How could anyone expect parents who carry their own wounds and trauma — and who were taught to pursue superficial success at all costs — guide children to a healthy life? When can we stop pursuing approval or love through perfect looks or perfect behavior, and let real and raw, authentic beauty shine through? Is it when we get in touch with our tenderness and our pain that we can let go of the illusion of perfection?
Being positive all the time is not salvation as it is a misguided form of prefabricated perfection. It is in not holding back our pain, sadness of grief that our true beauty and joy can be liberated from our minds and hearts. It is in the appreciation of being human with all the imperfections that come with it that love naturally is experienced. There is no need to struggle for being perfectly beautiful and attracting the right people and circumstances into our life.
Is it not enough to be self-aware of our gifts and curious about what you want to experiment and experience? So, what are you attracting into your life, and what would you like to attract simply by being yourself? What’s your relationship with…
